Hello, Old Friend,
You might not remember me. We live next door to each other, and we used to talk on a fairly regular basis. That is to say, we used to be friends. In fact, at one point, I remember you once said we were best friends. You also once told me I was pretty and used to have an inconveniently large crush on me. Unfortunately, I had a boyfriend, so you couldn’t do anything about it. The funny thing is, though, when I didn’t have a boyfriend, when you very easily could have acted on it, you didn’t. But you still liked me. And your new girlfriend. Who was in the exact same situation I was when I had a boyfriend. Interesting.
I think it’s funny you chose her over me. Maybe I’m bitter, but I don’t see it. She’s not smarter. She’s not funnier. She’s not really cuter. (Trust me, I asked LOTS of people. Yes, I am that girl who evaluates her self-esteem based upon what other people say.) In fact, she even had a boyfriend the first time y’all made out. I win the classy contest, hands down. And it’s not like I even wanted to date anybody when you could have asked me out. I told you that, and I appreciate that you respected me enough not to go there when you could have. However, you picked her over me … and not just in a “Who should I date?” way. You picked her over our friendship, and then you act as though you have no idea why we don’t talk anymore. Maybe it’s because your girlfriend, the one who made you the third person in her relationship, takes precedence over your girl friends. That’s not even entirely true, though, because I just get cut out of your life, not all the other girls. Explain that to me, would you?
I suppose the best I can do is get over it. If you’re letting the Flavor of the Month get in the way of one of your so-called best friendships, fine. By all means, date her, stop talking to me, and talk to all your other girl friends. But when this is over and you need someone to talk to about how horrible you’re feeling, go to one of your brothers. I’m not going to wait for you to see what you’re doing wrong, and I’m not going to be a friend to someone who won’t be a friend to me.
So much for best friendship, huh?
Yours truly,
Allie
2 Comments
January 30, 2008 at 7:08 pm
You know, this is a common problem with girls, no offense. The guy liked you ever since the beginning, he was never your best friend, he was trying to win you over. You knew he liked you and stayed with your boyfriend until it didnt work out. The guy got the signal that you werent into him at all. He met some chick that liked him and came onto him, and whammo, hes forgotten all about you. Guys NEVER have chicks as friends if they have a crush on them.
January 31, 2008 at 12:12 am
No offense taken. And it wasn’t so much that I wasn’t into him or wouldn’t be in a normal situation, but I had just broken up with my boyfriend, and I just wasn’t ready to date anyone. I do appreciate your insight, however; it’s interesting to hear a boy’s perspective, especially considering your entire gender makes no sense whatsoever.