It is useless to try to be friends with your ex-boyfriend. If you’re the one breaking up with someone, saying “I still want to be friends with you” is a last-ditch effort to make yourself feel better about hurting someone. It only works for a little while until you either realize all the feelings aren’t completely gone or until he reverts to his old ways, the ones you so kindly erased from his life while the two of you were together. Just let it go. It didn’t work out while you were dating, so why trick yourself into thinking it will work out as friends? Split the losses and call it a day. Chances are, you had legitimate reasons for breaking up with him, and his friends like you better anyway, so take the friends, take the good memories, be civil to each other, and call it a day.
Pathological liars, burgeoning alcoholics, and mama’s boys are not acceptable dating material. Lying is never okay. A little drinking is fine. Loving your mama and considering her advice is one thing, but letting your mama control your life is not. If you see signs of any of these things, run the other way. Do not waste another year (and more) of your life.
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March 21, 2009 at 2:58 pm
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August 31, 2009 at 3:18 pm
I’m with you totally on this. There’s a reason you broke up and you just have to stick with it. And there’s some advice on how to mend the broken heart and move on at my blog. (Next time you break up with someone, hand them my advice on how to get over you!) ;)
Katy
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